Protect Your Teen from Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

We've all felt that pang of rejection at some point in our lives, right? Today, I want to dive deep into a term that might sound a bit heavy but is crucial to understand when it comes to our teenagers: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria or RSD.

So, What's RSD?

Simply put, RSD is that deep, gut-wrenching feeling that everyone is constantly disappointed in what you do. It's the fear that relationships are teetering on the edge, ready to snap. For teens, especially those with ADHD, this feeling isn't a rarity—it's a constant companion.

Research reveals that teens with ADHD face rejection not just more frequently, but also with greater intensity than their peers. They begin to expect rejection, gearing up for it even before they step into situations, especially in school environments.

Interestingly, while society shows compassion and understanding towards disabilities that are visible, the invisible nature of ADHD often leads to misunderstandings and hurtful remarks.

But here's the kicker. Such remarks don't just hurt; they invite a rather unwelcome guest: Oppositional Defiance. This, coupled with RSD, creates a challenging mix.

Five Essential Questions to Counter RSD

Empathy and understanding are crucial. So, let's delve into five transformative questions, inspired by leading experts in ADHD research, that can help create a supportive environment:

1. "How can I help?"
   • My go-to! Especially during trying times, this question both acknowledges and validates your teen.
2. "Hey, how did you do that?"
   • Credit to Dr. David Nowell for this one. Celebrate their little wins and promote metacognition.
3. "Can you tell me more about that?"
   • A gem from Dr. Mo Atwal. Foster rich, deeper conversations and show genuine interest.
4. "Can we talk about [the topic]? Or can you let me know when you're ready to?"
   • Inspired by Dr. Ross Green, this question sets the stage for open dialogue.
5. "Can I give you a hug?"
   • A personal favorite. Hugs have an unparalleled power to comfort and heal.

Incorporating these questions into your interactions will ensure that your teen feels seen, heard, and valued.

Parents, navigating the teenage years is undeniably challenging. But with understanding and these communication tools, we can support our teens, especially those battling the weight of RSD.

Remember, every teenager, especially those with sensitive souls, deserves love, understanding, and a daily hug. Protect and cherish them.